Friday, September 30, 2011

"256 Shades of Gray"

First off, no, I am not talking about my hair, which currently is a lovely shade of salt and pepper.

Yesterday, I was discussing, with a very great friend of mine, my moms "theory" on the 256 shades of grey. but, let me start at the beginning of our conversation. We were discussing the two main types of homophobia, which are listed as "those trying to repress a part of themselves, and a background of abuse when younger". The conversation then turned to my mom, as she was a very wise and lovely woman, who like me, felt that everyone you meet is a potential friend. Of course she could get pissed off at lot quicker than I ever could, but I digress. Anyway, I was telling my friend that when I came out, my mom was like a community mom while I was living in Tucson and Phoenix. She would go to the gay bars with me, she would talk with all the people there, she even tried hooking me up with a few of the guys. But mainly, she was there for some of the guys when even their parents would not have anything to do with them. As a side note, my friend wondered why we don't see or hear more about community moms, and I think it might be because over the past 20 years, parents have started to become more accepting, but again, I digress. So I eventually ask my friend if he had ever seen me post about my moms theory of 256 shades of grey. He said he did not, so I gave him the story I am about to write here. My mom was a true angel, and this is but ONE of the many stories I can tell about how she worked to make a difference in her own part of the world.

"256 Shades of Grey" a theory by Saundra Sue McKeown, as remembered by Edward G. McKeown.

"Most people look at the people in the world and they see things in absolutes. To them, everything is either 'black' or 'white', and there are no compromises. What they tend to miss, or not see in larger picture, is that their really are not absolutes. Their are no 'absolute black' or absolute white', there are only the 256 shades of grey between those two defining points. For the comfort or enjoyment of another persons company, the absolute on one end would be a person that has absolutely no contact with the same sex, while the other absolute would be a person that has absolutely no contact with the opposite sex. Since these two options are relatively impossible, unless stranded alone on a deserted island or the choice to live as a hermit, these absolutes cannot be defined. Men communicate with other men, they go to bars together, they watch sports together, the have some point of contact with the same sex on a daily basis; while for ladies, the same is also true, ladies tend to do things in groups, go to ladies night out, go to bathrooms in groups, etc. And yet, we have no problem with these daily interactions, because it is assumed that ALL of the people involved are strictly 'heterosexual'. The same is true for the other end of the spectrum, where gays and lesbians interact with people of the opposite sex, yet we assume that at least one or more of the people are homosexual, when in fact, it is almost impossible to tell who is homosexual versus who is heterosexual. So this is where the theory of 256 shades of grey comes into light. Everyone, falls somewhere within that scale, and it doesn't really matter where you fall on the scale, just that their are no absolutes. Once you start looking at people in this way, will you truly understand the meaning of tolerance and acceptance."

Monday, September 12, 2011

The proposed 28th Amendment: some information

Earlier today, I received this from my very best friend that I have known for about 20 years and I consider my brother, Rob Walters. I thought it made sense, in part, so I decided to share it and hope that you find it as partially true as I do. Rob had stated that he did not know where it originated, as he received it as an email. I have posted it exactly as it was shared with me.

Unfortunately, lists this as "Mostly false" for several reasons and The World According to Opa notes some interesting views on the subject as well.

As always, you should do some research before passing along a chain email.


Edward G. McKeown

 The 28th Amendment - Please read and pass along

The 26th amendment (granting the right to vote for 18 year-olds) took  only 3 months & 8 days to be ratified! Why? Simple! The people  demanded it. That was in 1971...before computers, before e-mail,
before cell phones, etc.    Of the 27 amendments to the Constitution, seven (7) took 1 year or  less to become the law of the land...all because of public pressure.

 If you think these are good ideas, I'm asking each addressee to  forward this to a minimum of twenty people on their address  list; in turn ask each of those to do likewise.   In three days, most people in The United States of America will have  the message. This is one idea that really should be passed around.

 Congressional Reform Act of 2011

 1. Term Limits. 12 years only, one of the possible options below.
     A. Two six-year Senate terms
     B. Six two-year House terms
     C. One six-year Senate term and three Two-Year House terms

 2. No Tenure / No Pension. A Congressman collects a salary while in  office and receives no pay when they are out of office.

 3. Congress (past, present & future) participates in Social Security.

 All funds in the Congressional retirement fund move to the Social  Security system immediately. All future funds flow into the Social  Security system, and Congress participates with the American people.

 4. Congress can purchase their own retirement plan, just as all Americans can.

 5. Congress will no longer vote themselves a pay raise. Congressional  pay will rise by the lower of CPI or 3%.

 6. Congress loses their current health care system and participates in  the same health care system as the American people.

 7. Congress must equally abide by all laws they impose on the American people.

 8. All contracts with past and present Congressmen are void effective 1/1/12.

 The American people did not make this contract with Congressmen.  Congressmen made all these contracts for  themselves.   Serving in Congress is an honor, not a career. The Founding Fathers  envisioned citizen legislators, so ours should serve their term(s),  then go home and back to work.